This last weekend Declan spent his first night out.
I recently have been doing a lot of reading on the importance of marriage and the influence that it has on the first year of a child's life. While pregnant I read Babywise and though i didn't follow it (at all) the first chapter really resonated with me. He explains that making your spouse a priority instead of your child actually gives your child a deep sense of security and safety. I just finished Brain Rules for Baby by John Medina and was surprised that the first chapter was also on marriage. My favorite quote was his response to husbands that ask how to get their children into Harvard, "go home and love your wife." I say all this just to show the mindset I had going into this experience. I feel like there can be some judgement on parents that want some time to themselves but it turns out that it is actually beneficial.
I puttered around most of the day that Declan was going to sleep out, weighing my decision. The guilt set in a couple times and i thought about changing my mind but I knew that no matter how long I waited it was going to be hard. It was also hard when he slept in his room the first night, or the first night I let him cry. I know it will be hard when I go to wean him, or any of the other many experiences that we will go through together.
I decided to go forward with it and Declan went to my mom's around 4:30 Saturday. Things could not have gone better. He ate well and slept well for her! He went from 7 - 11 and then till 6:45 am! Much better than he does for me!
Josh and I also had a great night. We went out early and checked out Bethlehem Brewworks which was really cool and then had dinner at our new favorite place, the Trapp Door Gastropub in Emmaus. We got home around 9:15 and figured the best thing to do in a baby free home was get some much needed rest! Going to bed early and knowing that noone was there to wake me up in the middle of the night felt so amazing until about 3 am. I woke up in a panic that Declan wasn't there and debated for about 45 minutes driving down to my moms to get him. I did text her at one point, which she didn't respond to. Probably because of it being 3:15 and all!
There was a moment, right before I fell back asleep that I snuggled closer to Josh, poked him a little, and whispered "babe." His eyes darted open, scanned my face and opened both arms. He closed his eyes and held me there as we both drifted back off. He knew exactly what I was upset about and exactly what I needed in that moment without me having to say anything. I was so glad for our night out if it was just for this one tiny little fleeting embrace between us.
In the morning we woke up slow and had a nice breakfast. I practiced some yoga in the yard while Josh worked on our patio. My mom called to say that Declan had woken up from a morning nap and I went down to get him. I was so so happy to see my little nugget and he was so happy to see me! I felt refreshed from our little parenting vacation and ready to get back into mom land. I am so grateful that Declan has grandparents that love him so much and want to spend time with him.
In other news:
I am currently doing a yoga challenge on Instagram that has really helped me keep up with a daily practice and I am loving it.
Declan has started moving so much and it is more overwhelming than I thought!
We had a great 3 day weekend with friends and family and our patio is finally complete :)
Photo Dump from the weekend: